I am having so much fun being Charlie's mom these days.


Enjoying motherhood is a novelty for me. In fact, for the first 6 months of Charlie's life (as he woke up 4-7 times nightly and spit up all over me every 5 minutes) when ever another mother expressed her feelings about loving being a mom I just thought she was lying or delusional. Until Charlie was 14 months I thought that mom was just exaggerating. Now I find I can fully agree. Charlie and I are having a blast together!
He is growing up so fast--and getting so big and smart and independent. I know it's just the tip of the iceberg and I'm going to be saying these things until he is a full grown man, but that doesn't change the wonder I feel watching it happen.
His developing language and social interaction keep surprising me. We have real interactions now. For example, yesterday he came into the kitchen, where I was chopping veggies, gesturing the "help" sign and saying 'da da' urgently to get my attention. I asked him if he needed help, and he pointed to the living room. Then I told him to wait, while I rinsed of my hands and he stood right there. Then I said " show me" and he grabbed my hand and pulled me into the living room, climbed up on the couch and pointed down where he had dropped a toy cup behind it, against the wall. As I fished it out for him, I couldn't help but just be amazed that he had just managed to communicate something as complicated as asking me to retrieve a toy from behind the couch, where I never would have seen it if he hadn't pointed it out.

Of course, then he proceeded to drop the same cup in the same place and come and ask for help getting it out over and over! But somehow I just didn't mind because I was still so delighted to see him figure out that he could communicate like that with me.
I've been more intentional about doing things with him that we both enjoy. We go to the pool or some water-related outing most days.

There is this great park down town called Citygarden that has a whole half block devoted to fountains. They squirt up in different patterns and can be quite surprising if you happen to be leaning over, looking to see where the water went, when it shoots back up again.

I've experimented with reading a book or knitting while he plays in the living room. I'd give the reading experience 5 out of 10 for efficiency, but 9 out of 10 for enjoyment.

It kind of worked--part of the time he read his books next to me. Every five minutes or so I'd have to suggest getting another one. Then he would clamber down, run to his room (he ONLY runs, and does not walk anymore) to get another book, bring it back, and climb up onto the couch next to me again. That usually involved climbing over me too.

It wasn't really quality concentration time but way more interesting to me than pushing cars around and making sound effects...which I'd happened to do a lot of already that day!
I've been enjoying Charlie's growing independence, not only because it frees up my hands to do other things while he is awake, but because he is so proud of what he can do on his own. I can ask him to put his shoes away or put his cup back on the table and he will. Once he finishes the task I've given him, he runs back to me with his arms out for a congratulatory hug. He plays on his own for short periods of time, and can get thoroughly engrossed in books all on his own. He is starting to get creative in the way he plays with things. He crawled into the kitchen looking like this the other morning.

Not sure what was going on, but he was adamant about putting this float through its paces while he crawled and walked and rolled around on the floor.
Charlie has also started eating at the table with us. He's still learning that we are serious about him not being allowed to pick up, toss, or in any way play with his place mat, but he is really great about leaving his plate on the table.

(As an aside, a wonderful development for mealtimes has been teaching him what "chew" means. Now when we put a piece of chicken in his mouth and he starts to spit it out because it isn't as soft as he likes his food to be, we can say " chew it up, Charlie" and he will chew it up. He has discovered that he likes a lot more food than he thinks he does through chewing--for which this mother is very grateful. If we have greenbeans and chicken and rice for dinner then so does he! So fun!--and SO much easier than making special food for him...)
And affection! That little boy can give hugs (and kisses). I love the feeling of his arms wrapped so tight around my neck. Mothering is such a physical love--so much touching and wiping and lifting and holding--to be hugged back overwhelms me sometimes with how good it feels.
